What Is Really Causing Your Anxiety?

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Hey ya'll so today I am sharing my two tips on how to cope with anxiety. I have been in law school for a month now and it has had its ups and downs. I truly feel like the root cause to to my anxiety is fear. Even though I was and still am super excited about being back in law school; I am fearful of this journey and constantly comparing it to my last law school experience. So that is my 1st tip:

1. STOP COMPARING.

Literally my mind is the only thing stopping me from greatness right now. I have nit-picked and compared every single thing from how I meet people, to the way the professors teach, to the way the classroom is shaped. The first day of school I was shaking, heart racing, etc because one of my professors reminded me of the one whose grade knocked me out at my last school. I let all the memories from the past block the way of the moment I am living right now. One thing I am doing to shake this feeling is speaking positivity into myself. I have to get out of my head and just go with the flow. Every morning after prayer I say "I am in law school, I belong here, I know and understand the material, I am at the top of my class, I have a full ride scholarship (because I am trying to manifest the coins)! This mantra has helped me to calm down tremendously because it forces my mind out of negative spaces about school. The best way to stop comparing is to redirect your thoughts. When I am in class and I feel a bit of anxiety creeping in, I repeat that mantra in my head and things begin to calm down.

2. EMBRACE CHANGE.

Sometimes I feel a bit down because I am not making connections as quickly as I am used to and felt a bit lonely being here by myself. I usually make friends quickly but this time it does not seem to be clicking as fast (Interesting enough I have had conversations with a few people that I really think are great and they told me they feel the same way). However, I had to realize that maybe I am not supposed to be extremely social this go round. The connections I have made feel genuine and I know in due time they will grow. I also remember talking to my advisor from my last school and she told me next time don't do as much extracurricular activites. It's natural for me to want to do fun things and go out on the weekends, join clubs, and be present with my classmates, however now I feel like God is forcing me to be still and focus (now don't get me wrong "ima" do both when I get the opportunity lol); but all in all she wants me to get this law school done and I can feel the energy of wanting to be successful in the program pulling me away from anything I am not meant to be a part of. It kind of sucks sometimes but I know there is purpose in my season of waiting. One night when I swore up and down I was so lonely, I literally tried to force myself to cry and no tears came. I realized I wasn't lonely, I was a little bored but I was actually content and happy with myself. It feels different. Change feels different, healing feels different; and it can make you sad because you don't understand what is going on. I am embracing the new way God is shaping my friendships, relationships, and network. I have experienced a lot and I truly believe God is protecting me. So although everything feels so different I am no longer taking that as I am doing something wrong, but that I am walking into something bigger and better than I have every imagined and I can't bring everyone along with me.

I am sure more tips will come but as of now these are the two that have been the source of my anxiety. It is important to recognize your triggers as they come and figure out what you can do to solve them. I challenge you to think about who or what your are comparing yourself to; and come up with a mantra that you can use to redirect your focus.

Mood: I'm Getting Ready - Tasha Cobbs